We all suffer stressful 21st century lives to some degree or other. We are told to “Just reduce your stress levels” but know one ever really tells us how to do it. There are some obvious answers to remove stress from our lives.


Got a stressful job? Then get another!
A stressful marriage? Then get a divorce!
A long commute? Then move closer to work!
All these are really practical, simplistic suggestions but real life isn’t like that, and we would more often than not find other stressors to replace those anyway.

 

Learning to cope.

Stress reduction methods are many, some good and some not so good. It is important to cope with chronic stress and stressful situations in a healthy way, and not just add the burden already placed on the body.

Some bad ways to deal with stress are:-

Smoking
Heavy Caffeine use
Excessive alcohol use
Overeating or binging
Under eating or other food disorders
Medications
Not facing problems
Using violence
With drawing into ones self
Mindless TV watching

Theses are all commonly used as coping mechanisms for stress and as you can see, they all come with extra problems or their own.

Some good ways to deal with stress are done by using the four A’s –

Avoid, Alter, Adapt and Accept.

Avoid unnecessary stressors: - Learn how to say “no”, know your limits. Avoid people and situations that stress you out, take control of your environment.

Alter the stressor: - Be assertive and don’t bottle things up inside. If a situation or someone is creating a stress for you, communicate your concerns in a respectful way. If you suppress your emotions or let things simmer the situation will stay the same or escalate into a conflict that may only stress you more. If you do try to resolve the stressful situation be willing to compromise if necessary, be a little flexible, you’ll have a better chance of finding a workable solution.
Also work on your time management skills, if you are pressured for time, it is difficult to stay calm and focused.

Adapt to the stressor: - Focus on the positives, when stress is getting you down, take a moment to reflect on all the things positive in your life, including your own great qualities, use this to keep things in perspective.
Look at the bigger picture; ask yourself how important it will be in the long run. Will it matter in a month? A year? Is it really worth getting upset over? If the answer is no, focus your time and energy on something more important to you.
Try to adjust your standards. Accept things for what they are and don’t stress over things, they may not be up to your own high standards you set yourself, but you maybe consistently setting yourself up for failure and more stress by demanding perfection.

Accept the stressor: - Many things in life are beyond our control— particularly the behaviour of others. Rather than stressing out over them, focus on the things you can control such as the way you choose to react to problems. Look for the positive in a negative situation, “What doesn’t kill us makes us stronger.” If it was your own poor choice that contributed to a stressful situation, reflect on it and learn from your mistakes.
Try to accept the fact that we live in an imperfect world and that people (including ourselves) make mistakes.

 

Here are some easy quick tips to deal with stress

Go for a walk or bike ride
Spend quiet time in nature.
Call a good friend and catch up
Sweat out tension with a good workout 
Write down some positive goals.
Take a long bath.
Play with a pet.
Work in your garden.
Get a massage.
Curl up with a good book.
Listen to music.
Watch a comedy.

Don’t ignore stress, deal with it, your good physical and mental health may depend on it

Yours In Health,

Richard Insley

 

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2016-01-13 14:24:56